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Three books. One marriage. Twenty years of becoming.
Some stories are easy to tell because they have a clear beginning, middle, and end.
Ours doesn’t.
It has beginnings we didn’t recognize until years later. Endings that weren’t really endings. Truths that changed depending on how much we were finally ready to see.
It has betrayal and survival.
Marriage and motherhood.
Addiction and recovery.
Secrets, consequences, grief, accountability, protection, and grace.
We believe in telling our children the truth. We don’t insult their intelligence. When something affects their safety, their understanding, or their ability to make sense of what they’ve encountered, we answer hard questions.
It has the people we were when we met, the people we became while trying to survive, and the people we are still becoming now.
The “If Wedding Rings Could…” Series is the story of a marriage told across twenty years—not as a perfect redemption story, not as a prescription for what anyone else should do, and not with the promise that love makes every wound disappear.
It is simply the truth of what we lived.
And what we learned by continuing to live honestly through it.
…If Wedding Rings Could Talk…
…If Wedding Rings Could Protect…
…If Wedding Rings Could Reflect…
…If Wedding Rings Could Redeem…
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If Wedding Rings Could Talk
What would yours say?
Before there was a series, there was a question:
If wedding rings could talk, what would ours say?
They would tell of two young people who met in 2007 carrying histories they didn’t yet fully understand.
They would tell of marriage, babies, military life, faith, trauma, addiction, betrayal, and the devastating discovery that the life you thought you were living was not the whole story.
They would tell of the day everything changed.
And the years that followed.
If Wedding Rings Could Talk tells the story of our marriage from the beginning through the revelation of my husband’s infidelity and sexual addiction—and my decision to remain while we discovered what honesty, accountability, and recovery would actually require.
This is not a book about why every marriage should be saved.
It is not a formula for forgiveness.
It is not a promise that staying is braver than leaving.
It is one woman’s account of what happened when the truth finally spoke—and what it meant to listen.
Looking Back at What Was Hidden. Telling the Truth About What We Carried.
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If Wedding Rings Could Protect
What happens after you survive the thing you thought might end your marriage??
A wedding ring can symbolize commitment.
It can represent promises, history, endurance, and love.
It cannot prevent secrets.
It cannot undo harm.
And it cannot teach two people how to speak to one another after everything they thought they understood has changed.
If Wedding Rings Could Protect continues our story beyond the revelation of my husband’s infidelity and sexual addiction and into the years that followed.
Because discovering the truth was not the end of our story.
Neither was deciding to stay.
We had to learn a new language.
The language of triggers and boundaries.
Of accountability and honesty.
Of safety and repair.
Of recognizing what was happening beneath the words we were saying—and learning how to communicate what we actually meant.
Over the years, that language became part of how we lived out recovery in ordinary life. Not perfectly. Not without conflict. Not because we found a formula that made the past disappear.
But because surviving a crisis and learning how to live together afterward are two very different things.
If Wedding Rings Could Protect is about the language we learned after betrayal.
The words we didn’t have when everything first fell apart.
The conversations we had to learn how to have.
The patterns we began to recognize.
The ways we learned to say, This is what is happening inside me. This is what I need you to understand. This is where I need a boundary. This is what safety means here.
A wedding ring could never protect us from everything we would face.
But over time, we learned that protection wasn’t found in pretending the hard things were behind us.
It was found in having the language to tell the truth about what was happening now.
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If Wedding Rings Could Reflect
Looking Back with Honesty. Living Forward with Grace.
If Wedding Rings Could Reflect is the third book in the series and is currently being written.
It is being written after twenty years together.
After living eight children. Five of those born after we began recovering.
With a fledgling adult child finding his footing in the world and our youngest still a toddler at our feet.
It is being written seven years beyond where If Wedding Rings Could Talk left us—with seven more years of marriage, recovery, parenting, grief, growth, unraveling, rebuilding, and ordinary life now behind us to reflect upon.
In those years, we have deconstructed religious bonds we came to recognize as human shackles wearing a holy veneer.
We have faced some of our own deepest personal demons while advocating for justice for some of our children—all the way through disclosure, investigation, trial, conviction, and sentencing. Becoming Rooted in Justice was never on our bingo card, but we do things for people we love that show them they are worth every effort.
We have only begun learning how to make the profound shift from parenting a child to partnering with an adult child…”Straddle-Parenting” they call it.
And through it all, we have continued to live inside a marriage that has never been frozen at its worst moment—or perfected by surviving it.
If Wedding Rings Could Reflect looks back from here.
Not to rewrite the past with what we know now.
Not to turn twenty years into a tidy redemption story.
But to ask what becomes visible when you have lived long enough to see some things differently.
What did we believe because it was true—and what did we believe because we had been taught not to question it?
What did survival require of us then?
What does living require of us now?
Who were we?
Who did we become?
And how do we honor the people we once were without requiring ourselves to remain them forever?
This is not the ending to our story.
It is a reflection from farther down the road.
And for years, perhaps there simply wasn’t enough room.
A recognition that healing doesn’t erase history, grace doesn’t require denial, and living forward honestly does not require us to rewrite where we’ve been.
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If Wedding Rings Could Redeem
If Wedding Rings Could Redeem is our manifesto on redemption after infidelity—and it is currently being written.
We are not experts. We don’t have a formula, a map, or a promise that your story will look anything like ours.
We are simply honest about where we have been, individually and together, throughout this process.
We have grown together deliberately, imperfectly, and sometimes painfully. We have shared our story with strangers, family, friends, and the most important people of all: the next generation—our children and the children we do life alongside.
We have lived every step of this redemption journey without a map.
This book isn’t a promise that your marriage will survive infidelity, that your spouse will become anything like either of us, or that following our path will lead you to the same destination.
Not until everything is fixed.
Not until the past disappears.
But, for us, until death do us part.
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